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    Annie
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    I enjoy going to strip clubs with my husband. Not only does it turn my husband on, but I really enjoy getting a table dance from a sexy, gorgeous woman. I am wondering if lesbians and bisexual women go to strip clubs. If so, do you go to ‘gentleman’s clubs,’ or are there strip clubs specifically for lesbians that I’m not aware of? Or is the whole idea of stripping and dancing for money offensive to lesbians?

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    Name : Annie, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 38, City : Tucson, State : AZ Country : United States, Social class : Middle class, 
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    Kathy
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    Around here in Montreal, there are no specific strip clubs for lesbians. There is one male strip club for women, tons of female strip clubs for men, and tons of male strip clubs for gay men. I personally enjoy going to strip clubs with my girlfriend of 5 years and her straight male friends (because female clubs won’t let women in without male escorts). Some lesbian friends I know are completely turned off by the idea of female strippers, some find it degrading. And then there are some bi and lesbian women I know who enjoy it and some who even fight for more rights for sex workers in general. So I wouldn’t say tnat all lesbians love it or hate it, it depends on each person.

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    Name : Kathy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : Asian, Age : 25, City : Montreal, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Administration, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 
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    tigrress
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    This, I’d say, is one of those things that varies by person. I have a couple friends who have gone to strip clubs. I’m sure they’d prefer women-only clubs, but availability is limited in the Mid-west. Personally the idea of stripping/dancing for money is just smart. The people who give their money choose to be there, as do the strippers. I think people aren’t given enough credit for their own choices, but that’s just me. Also, I’ve never been to a strip club, but wouldn’t mind going someday. Some people like to look, some don’t. Hope that’s helpful 🙂

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    Name : tigrress, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : kansas city, State : MO Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 2 Years of College, 
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    Kathy
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    Around here in Montreal, there are no specific strip clubs for lesbians. There is one male strip club for women, tons of female strip clubs for men, and tons of male strip clubs for gay men. I personally enjoy going to strip clubs with my girlfriend of 5 years and her straight male friends (because female clubs won’t let women in without male escorts). Some lesbian friends I know are completely turned off by the idea of female strippers, some find it degrading. And then there are some bi and lesbian women I know who enjoy it and some who even fight for more rights for sex workers in general. So I wouldn’t say tnat all lesbians love it or hate it, it depends on each person.

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    Name : Kathy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : Asian, Age : 25, City : Montreal, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Administration, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 
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    Ursula
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    I’m not a lesbian but I have many gay and lesbian friends. I’ve gone with lesbian friends to ‘gentlemen’s clubs’ and I have only noticed that they don’t get as excited as when we go to a lesbian club during the strip show. And I don’t know if the situation is the same everywhere. But at the few lesbian clubs there have been in Hawaii (that I’ve gone to), the shows can be really graphic and extreme. I’d like to know if it’s like that everywhere, it was shocking for my taste and I considered myself open to things.

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    Name : Ursula, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Part-Hawaiian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 30, City : Wahiawa, State : HI Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 
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    Ken
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    I can only speak from my experience, there are so many questions to comment on here, but first let me tell you that here in Los Angeles, there are clubs for lesbians that feature stripping. It’s an old joke that the strippers are all ‘straight’, which plays into the popular culture myth of gays wanting to turn straights. It’s an inside joke. The stripping in these clubs is more a feature of the club, for atmosphere, than the whole focus of the club. None of my lesbian friends have ever told me about their stripper experiences, i think that’s a guy thing, and straight women. My last three serious relationships were with women who enjoyed strip clubs, one club here in particular that is known for it’s late night Co-ed crowds. My buddy and I went there for his birthday with our lesbian couple-friends. I don’t think they would have gone there on their own cause it’s just not there speed, It’s still oriented for men paying women, but they had a good time anyway. Gay couples are as diverse as straight ones. None of my lesbian friends give it a second thought, it’s not on their minds. Perhaps there is a divide within the lesbian community about stripping, but my experience has been that almost any Gay debate sounds just like everyone else’s debate. There is no real single category – you’re either on this side of the line or you’re not. Much in the way my Gay brother is not in any way a stereotypical gay man, even his own friends find it hard to believe sometimes. And what is the stereotype? One answer might be that bi-women go to strip clubs all the time – with their boyfriends. Two of the girls i mentioned before had had female lovers and readily talked about it. After all, are they not the classic bi-sexual reference? In their cases, as many lesbian friends of mine, the level of offense to women acting-out or being forward is about equal to that of straight women – i’m sure you know several straight women who are offended by stripping? Whether religious or post-modern feminism, some women have always been offended by women dancing for men’s money. I don’t think sexual orientation is a determinate factor here- ultimately, it’s a political choice.

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    Name : Ken, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Altadena, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : entertainment, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 
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    A
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    My wife and I go to strip bars pretty regularly. We just go to regular strip places, although we have a favorite (best college girls!). I guess we wouldn’t go back to anywhere that seemed hostile, but that’s never happened, strippers love us, and the men there usually just ignore us like they do the other guys. I have heard that obviously gay women are sometimes more welcome in strip clubs than straight-looking women, who are sometimes assumed to be hookers. Stripping is offensive to some women, but it isn’t to me.

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    Name : A, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 24, City : Alexandria, State : VA Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class, 
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    Dina M.
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    Yes bi and lesbians do go to strip bars. Which one depends on the girl. Some clubs (in the past for sure, present time may be better) would check because they thought the woman may be a prostitute trying to find some clients. Most boyztowns (section for LGBT community) have strip joints. It’s a little bit uncomfortable to be a woman around intoxicated men at a strip club and not be working there

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    Name : Dina M., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : unsure, City : Chicago, State : IL Country : United States, Occupation : Poet, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class, 
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    Moira
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    In Tucson, there is really no special strip club for bi or lesbian women. Your best bet, if you’d like to enjoy a few lap dances, is to go to a club like Ten’s or TD’s East, with a guy friend, and ask for a table dance whenever a girl approaches your friend. The idea of stripping and dancing for money may be offensive to some women, but not to me…and I consider myself a very liberated individual. What’s not to like about admiring a beautiful woman close-up? I often go to various strip clubs with my husband. I also stripped at a club for about 6 months a few years ago because I was curious about what the stripping/topless industry was all about. I have a master’s degree–and a brain…and still find nothing objectionable about topless clubs.

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    Name : Moira, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 27, City : Tucson, State : AZ Country : United States, Occupation : Teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 
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    Bi-Dancer
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    Some lesbians/bi women do come in, but not too many, at least not in the cities where I’ve worked. Some strip clubs don’t allow unescorted (meaning: no man) women in. That’s not because of the lesbian thing, what they don’t want are prostitutes coming in soliciting the guys. It makes sense if you think about it. There are not strip clubs specifically for women – they’d go broke, as women just do not spend money on sex workers like men do. There are some serious lesbian-feminists who might be offended, but not so many… But sometimes in bigger cities with a good sized big gay/lesbian population, there will be special parties put on by/for lesbians, with strippers. I’ve danced at shows like that, it’s fun. But it’s unlikely you’d hear about them unless you were ‘in the loop’ of lesbian events – reading the gay papers, looking at flyer in gay bars, etc.

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    Name : Bi-Dancer, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, City : Seattle, State : WA Country : United States, Occupation : dancer, 
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    D31820
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    I danced in strip, or ‘gentleman’s clubs,’ for four years. While I do not know of any lesbian specific clubs in my city I know that some exist in other cities. Yes bisexual and lesbians go to the clubs. As a matter of fact I have worked at clubs that cater to women on certain nights of the week. Also guys I am sorry to say it is true that a lot of dancers are lesbians or at least bisexual themselves. I guess that they are like any other group of people, some find it offensive and some don’t.

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    Name : D31820, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : American Indian, Religion : Christian, Age : 28, City : Dallas, State : TX Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 
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    Stacey-A
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    As a bisexual woman, I can say that I enjoy going to strip clubs. I have lesbian and bisexual friends who also do, and ones that do not (just as there are heterosexuals who enjoy strip clubs and those that do not). I generally go to a ‘Gentleman’s Club’, since they are easily found, but I won’t go to just any one since I find some of them sleazy and distasteful (such as in their decor, the way they treat their dancers, or the atmosphere they present). Rarely, you can find strip clubs tailored to entertaining a lesbian and bisexual audience, but they are few and far between. More often, a gay and lesbian nightclub might host a ladies’ night and feature female dancers. The idea of stripping and dancing for money may be offensive to some lesbian or bisexual women, but not to all- it really depends on how they view sex and their own sexuality and whether in their views they find stripping acceptable. Interestingly enough, most of the dancers I have met are lesbian or bisexual.

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    Name : Stacey-A, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 32, City : Yucca Valley, State : CA Country : United States, 
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    Anika
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    I have danced for eight years in Portland, Ore. We have more srtip clubs per capita here than anywhere in the United States. As far as I know there is one lesbian bar in town here that has dancers one night a week, that’s it. Lots of women come down to the bars but I have seen maybe three ‘hard core butch lesbians’ in clubs in all of my eight years.

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    Name : Anika, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 26, City : Portland, State : OR Country : United States, Social class : Middle class, 
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    Marianne
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    I can only speak for myself. As a butch lesbian, I think women lovers stripping for me is very sexy. As for straight women strippers, who get off on stripping for men/money, I don’t find that so sexy to be around. Women who are into strippers generally go to men’s clubs because that’s usually the only option. At the lesbian bar here in Portland, there’s stripper night once a month or so, and those women really enjoy doing it for women, so it feels a lot more fun.

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    Name : Marianne, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 54, City : Portland, State : OR Country : United States, Occupation : Stage Manager, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 
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    Jenny
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    I am a lesbian and have been to a strip club maybe twice with a group of friends. To me, it was just as much of a turn on, as it was a turn off. My lesbian friends have a variety of opinions on stripclubs. Some love them, some are deeply offended by them. I think that among the lesbian population, you’ll find just as wide a variety of opinions on the subject as you will among straight women. I have also met a couple of women who strip for a living and they have commented that they do enjoy it when women come into the club – women are much more sensual, less aggressive and offensive, and a nice change of pace from the men. I don’t know of any strip clubs that are specifically for women. Sometimes lesbian bars will hire a woman dancer to come into their bar for a ‘show’. Those that are interested watch/participate; those that aren’t shoot pool.

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    Name : Jenny, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 29, City : Kansas City, State : MO Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 
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