- May 9, 2000 at 12:00 am #8815
Why do people keep jobs they hate? I could understand the money or benefits, but why do something you don’t like doing?
User Detail :Name : Didier R., Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), City : Chicago, State : IL Country : United States, Occupation : student, May 10, 2000 at 12:00 am #46889
I think anyone who’s ever been in the position you’re describing understands. I manage a municipal solid waste district and can honestly say I hate every minute of it. What I live to do is write (songs, books, stories, etc.). I started as a newspaper reporter but couldn’t pay back my student loans on the wage. Now I write a lot of free-lance stuff on the side, but I can’t stand being a bureaucrat. Why do I stay? Well, I am looking for other jobs, but the biggest reason is that I put myself through college and have loans to pay back. I also see elderly people who lose their homes because they don’t have any retirement savings. Yeah, I could quit and go on welfare, but then what? I’d end up sitting on a street corner praying that my book goes bestseller; in the meantime I’m getting older, and nobody on this planet is going to take care of me.
So why do we work jobs we hate? Because it’s better than the alternative, which is being a live-at-home-punk or welfare-bum. Either way, I’d rather be dead than do that. I have a hard time respecting people who quit their jobs, live at home and leech off their parents and spouse. Grow up and take care of yourself! Do what you have to do. Nobody likes cleaning up garbage, but where would you be if someone didn’t?
User Detail :Name : Brian23034, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : Kokomo, State : IN Country : United States, Occupation : management, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, May 15, 2000 at 12:00 am #36039
I have friends who are miserable at their jobs and complain constantly, but never leave. They are so deathly afraid of change and ‘appearing unstable’ that they stay at the same company, where they are treated horribly and underpaid. Gone are the days when you have to stay somewhere until retirement. I say move around and find what you really want and get more money in the process. If you’re lucky enough to find a dream job, stay. But don’t rely on companies to keep you during troubled times. They’ll get rid of you in a second, with no remorse.
User Detail :Name : Barbara23470, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, City : Atlanta, State : GA Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, May 18, 2000 at 12:00 am #32643
I kept a job that I hated for a long time because I had financial resposibilities and was afraid to leave the stability for the unknown. I’d been with that employer for many years, was making good money, and felt that my position in the company was rock solid. I wasn’t sure I could find a new job that paid as much as I was making, and even if I did, if it didn’t work out I feared that I’d be stuck with nowhere to go. I eventually did leave and in addition to being happier at my new job, I am making more money, learning new things, meeting new people, and growing as a person.
User Detail :Name : ray, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 30, City : oklahoma city, State : OK Country : United States, Occupation : New Media Programmer, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Upper middle class, May 20, 2000 at 12:00 am #34115
I am convinced that some people do not think they are supposed to like their jobs. I am also convinced that some people just like to complain. Everywhere I’ve worked, I have almost immediately run into a ‘Captain Bringdown’ — a self-appointed critic of everything about the company and the job who is miserable, tries to make everyone else miserable, yet continues to hang on. Now I am in an odd situation. I have credentials that would, if I pursued it and made the right contacts, allow me to make several times the money I make right now — but I would have to work 10-12 hours per day, and when I weren’t working, I would have to socialize with materialistic people who don’t share my values or interests. Or on the other hand, I could devote myself to my true passions — writing, creative arts, and Christian ministry — but I would have no money and no security. So I continue to do what I am doing now — working in a profession I have been in for several years, which is below the threshold of my credentials but still a challenging, stimulating job. I make all of the money I need and save quite a bit, I have considerable job security and get along great with the people I work with. I don’t have to work endless hours and have time for my hobbies, family, and church activities. Realistically I expect nothing more out of work and am thankful for what I have.
User Detail :Name : Augustine23645, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 39, City : Columbia, State : SC Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, May 22, 2000 at 12:00 am #46223
A lot of times it’s to keep a steady paycheck and food on the table. It’s hard to know how to answer you without a better example. If this is an older worker, it may be due to the fact that older workers grew up believing that an employer would take care of them as long as they did their job. So, even if the job or the work environment has changed, they are reluctant to change jobs regardless of how they feel. Some people are afraid that if they leave the job they have, even if they detest every minute of it, they will never get another job. So, for them, it’s better to stay with a job they hate than try to get another and discover that their first perception was correct and has now become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Another reason might be that they have been doing this one job for so long, they don’t want to invest the time and effort necessary to find another job or learn another task. They may not like it, but the job has become ‘comfortable’.
User Detail :Name : Pete S., Gender : M, Age : 51, City : Orlando, State : FL Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, June 29, 2000 at 12:00 am #31332
Many people I’m sure are in postions similar to my own. I’ve been in telemarketing for some years now and it has been a living hell. But it’s also the only real job experience I have. I’m 24-years-old and have been beat out of better jobs that I’m qualified for, by people with 10 or more yrs experience, 10 yrs ago I started high school. Some people, I think, just get stuck… you can’t quit, gotta make a living. But you just aren’t marketable elsewhere.
User Detail :Name : Katherine D., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : Chicago, State : IL Country : United States, Occupation : Soon to be student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Lower middle class, November 25, 2004 at 12:00 am #39556
Why to stay at a dreaded job? My problem was fear. I had given 12+ years to a place and realizing after 4 years I was at a dead end. I quit that job 4 times but allowed myself to be called back each and every time. Every job I left to go to looked so much better in the beginning but turned sour within weeks. It came across to me that I was ‘destined’ to never go anywhere and I should just shut up, keep my head down, and show up every day. I’m happy to say I broke that cycle of fear and have turned my life around.
User Detail :Name : Keith, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 38, City : South Central, State : WI Country : United States, Education level : Technical School,
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