Is ‘buddy’ an insult?

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    Erin
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    I once addressed a Hispanic boy, whom I knew slightly, as ‘buddy’. A nearby Hispanic girl, whom I didn’t know at all, scolded me sharply for using the term. Also, I once saw a black man explode at another (lighter-skinned) man who called him ‘buddy’. Is ‘buddy’ an insult to some people?

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    Brian
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    I can relate to this very much. Because I get similarly annoyed when people with whom I’m not familiar refer to me as ‘man.’ Americans in general are an informal people, but sometimes informality can be interpreted as disrespect. It’s the same as using Tu instead of Usted in Spanish or Tu instead of Vous in French. People would be offended by this initial lack of respect. So the problem as I see it is not the term ‘buddy’ it is the lack of respect/condescension associated with using the term with people you don’t know. In Europe it happens to me a lot and I check people right from the start. They quickly call me Mister, or Sir at least change their disposition.

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    Ann L. Lowenstein
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    I’d say it’s only an ‘insult’ to people who are searching high and low for an excuse to be ‘insulted.’ But I’m cynical.

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    Megan
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    Calling someone ‘buddy’ generally sounds sarcastic, like when someone says ‘hey, chief.’

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    Christine
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    I work with a Vietnamese man who calls everyone buddy, including Asians, African Americans, and Caucasians. No problems here.

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    Cody
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    It depends how you use the word. Like most of the time the way buddy is used it sounds snobby or sarcastic. But other times it sounds friendly.

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    Sean
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    I find being called ‘buddy’ or ‘guy’ or anything else like that to be irritating. It sounds sarcastic and presumptuous to me, as if the person is trying to get some sort of upper hand. Most people probably don’t mean it that way, but that’s how it sounds to me.

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    #30383

    Because its stereotypical that Arabs are always calling people ‘buddy’…why? I dunno, they just do. Constantly. And I guess they probably thought you were being sarcastic. Watch Friday After Next…

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