- March 23, 2000 at 12:00 am #4885
I don’t know much about happiness, but I know I don’t feel it. I don’t really have a reason not to – I’m gainfully employed, eat well and have a roof over my head. However, I have few friends and spend most of my nights wasting time on the Internet and watching TV. I feel depressed a lot and don’t really have anyone to talk to about it. I’m actually embarrassed to tell my family. Anyway, if anyone has the key to happiness, please let me know.
User Detail :Name : Mickey M., Gender : M, Religion : Catholic, Age : 18, City : Brighton Beach, Brooklyn, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Longshoreman, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Upper middle class, March 23, 2000 at 12:00 am #13850
Does your employer provide coverage to see a counselor? If so, I highy recommend you take advantage of that benefit. If it’s not covered, seek help from local community centers or your church. Talking it out with a neutral party can help you zero in on what’s holding you back and/or missing in your life. I have been through counseling, and even went on to see a psychiatrist to get through some troubling events in my life (death of my mother, accepting my sexuality) that were causing me to withdraw from my social life and isolate myself at home. Happiness is out there, but sometimes it sure does try to hide. Group therapy and community activism/volunteerism are also ways to get out and meet others in a non-pressure situation. Look in the mirror and realize that you are one of God’s children, and as such, you need to take care of yourself. Make the decision to seek help in breaking the cycle of depression and you will be forever changed.
User Detail :Name : Mark Bentley, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : UFMCC - Cathedral of Hope, Age : 39, City : Dallas, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : Financial analyst, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class, March 23, 2000 at 12:00 am #16815
Find a way to do something, no matter how simple, for someone else. Start small. Then consider volunteering for United Way, Habitat for Humanity or a similar organization. Best wishes.
User Detail :Name : Jeff31177, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : San Antonio, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : HR Professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, March 23, 2000 at 12:00 am #37742
I feel the key to happiness is personal interaction. Talking to people, going out, etc. You said you don’t have many friends, and it seems you may be a bit insecure? I would make myself ‘available’ to whoever was around, even just as a first step. For example, if a bunch of guys from work are going out, join them. Even if you aren’t crazy about them, you may be able to meet other people while you’re out. Or stop at a book store and spark up a conversation with someone reading a book that interests you. Just relax and smile. Go out and have fun.
User Detail :Name : Anonymous, Gender : F, Age : 26, City : Southern, State : NJ Country : United States, Social class : Middle class, March 27, 2000 at 12:00 am #18619
I do not hold the key to happiness, but I feel happier when I take part in certain activities. Regular physical exercise is good for your mind as well as your body. It is easier to stay in a program if there other people in it with you, like in an aerobics or swimming class. Maybe you have a family member or neighbor who would like to walk or run with you. Another thing that gives me a more positive outlook is to do something constructive that I enjoy. A good way to meet people who share your positive interests is to take a class or two at a local college. You will be surrounded by people like yourself who are trying to better themselves, while learning about something that interests them. I would also urge you to try to talk with someone in your family. Everyone gets depressed sometimes. I imagine that the people who love you would try to help you through rough times if they knew what you were going through. Good Luck Mickey.
User Detail :Name : Michell, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 32, City : Dayton, State : OH Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, March 27, 2000 at 12:00 am #25689
Happiness isn’t something to find. It is developed through self-knowledge and a willingness to accept what life sends your way. Sometimes it’s a matter of attitude. Sometimes it’s based on a chemical imbalance. It sounds to me like you suffer from depression, which is easily remedied through counseling and medication. People are shocked to learn I take medication for depression – I am smart, successful, funny, a good mother, self-employed, energetic, etc. At one time, I wondered why, with all of that, I felt so unhappy. A friend pointed out that she noticed a pattern of depression. I sought medical attention. I never thought someone like me would need something like that. Believe me, it helps. Get involved. Do something for others to take your mind off yourelf. See a physician.
User Detail :Name : Cathy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Presbyterian, Age : 40, City : San Antonio, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, March 27, 2000 at 12:00 am #27525
It sounds as if you don’t have a direction for your life. You are 18 – just starting your adult life. The possiblities are endless. Think about where you would like to be in 10 or 15 years. Once you get a clear picture, make goals or milestones that will help get you there. You might consider continuing your education: college, university, trade school. My life got a lot better after I started college. At 18 I was very depressed too, but once I took control of the direction of my life, things got better very quickly.
User Detail :Name : Lucy-H22667, Gender : F, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 25, City : San Jose, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, March 27, 2000 at 12:00 am #32540
Maybe you should look more closely at your life. Are you fulfilled or are you just getting by? There is this unspoken energy in this country to just fit in. Get a job, regardless of whether you like it, pay your bills, go through the motions of buying the crap you think you need or are told you need, and ultimately, find someone else with whom to spend your remaining days. Just maybe you are someone who requires more out of life. Do you have any hobbies, dreams of creativity or anything else you are suppressing? Spend some time trying not to fit in, but rather create, and see if happiness doesn’t come from that. Please be forewarned – the creative path is not supported well by our culture, and sometimes it may seem as if creative people are more persecuted than the average Joe/Josephine. I have always felt a low level of depression in my life, and not until I started to develop creatively did I find some peace. Best of luck. You are a young man with quite a bit of time ahead of you. Don’t squander it by just being ‘here.’
User Detail :Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, July 11, 2000 at 12:00 am #40074
Break away. There’s nothing worse then conforming to a given shape. Expand your mind and explore the realities before you. Daniel might be right in meeting new people. The only way to know for sure is through experimentation. Although, I personally don’t condone seeking a therapist. A therapist’s job is to essentially mold you into an easily manipulated block. I prefer a more gelatinous state, myself.
User Detail :Name : Patrick-Wood19916, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Nietzschean, City : Toronto, State : NA Country : Canada, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Upper middle class, September 5, 2000 at 12:00 am #37335
It is important to realize that your ‘unhappiness’ is completely normal. Everyone is unhappy at one time or another in their life. These things just take time to get over, and it will pass. You need to get involved in other things to get your mind off your unhappiness. Try doing fun things with your friends or family members. I disagree with some of the other people here who said medication was the answer. It is NOT. Medication will only give you short-term happiness. You need people in your life to help you find the long-term happiness you really need.
User Detail :Name : Kandace, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, City : Porterville, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : student, February 19, 2003 at 12:00 am #30836
HAppiness can come from having a one on one relationship w/ Jesus Christ! If he’s your Lord and Savior than you should ask him to give you joy, which is even better than happiness! Happiness lasts only for a moment, but joy lasts for a lifetime!!
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