Ann L. Lowenstein
Allure of the unknown could be a big part of your ‘thing’ for white men. Subconscioulsly wanting to fit in with other black professional women you know, who have white ‘trophy boyfriends,’ might also be playing a part. You may have an internal attractiveness template into which more white men than black men fit. How did the black men in your life when you were growing up react to your ambitions and desire for a higher education? Are there a large number of mixed-race couples in your social circle? What I’m getting at here is there could be a lot of different reasons you prefer white men to men of your own race. Since it clearly bothers you, you need to sit down, possibly with a professional, and really examine why you feel as you do.