I grew up in a small town where the differences between people were hardly discernable. After college I lived for a while in europe. The people I met there went to great pains to try to discover my ‘class’. They found it very confusing that my parents owned their home and worked in factories, that I was college educated but didn’t turn my back on my upbringing. Basically, they were puzzled as to why I would choose to glide back and forth ‘between classes’. Their interest in my background made me feel uncomfortable not because I was embarassed but because I was embarassed for them. The feeling was similar to someone asking how much you paid for your house. I also think that people (of whatever background) who are completely comfortable with themselves have the most class. Being gracious doesn’t hinge on your socio-economic group.