I can only reply from experience. When I was young, in my early 20s, I did not have many role models. Coming out at an early age, ‘kids’ are not sure what they are supposed to be when they realize they are gay. Society assumes this means feminine, in my case. As I grew older, I knew that as a male adult, I was just that, male. It was time to be me, a man. Not that I wasn’t gay, but to be a man who could live, work and be himself, without the constraints of what society thinks I’m supposed to be.