Marisa, if you think at 15 that obeying your elders is such a burden, feel free to dispense with all the things those elders provide for you (food, clothing, shelter, love, support, etc.) and go out on your own. You seem to want independence so bad…GO for it! Quit accepting those demeaning hand-outs from your overbearing, manipulative elders and make it on your own! Don’t have the guts for that? Maybe not…but until you do, shut up, sit down and be grateful that someone cares enough about you to take care of you and teach you what life is really about.