Sexiness is about more than age and appearance. Our society places an inflated value on youth. Sexiness is about youth and beauty but it is also about passion and experience and a sense of sexual adventure. Wanting to please another person sexually is important too. Not being self conscious and rejoying yourself as well as enjoying your lover enjoying you is an integral part of the sexiness equation. What it all adds up to for me is that youth is just a component and not a requirement. Sexiness for me is not particularly related to youth. I’ve always had sex with age mates. I’m now in my forties. I have found women to be sexier as I get older and the women I find most sexy are my age.