You might be considered Jewish by the Reform Jewish Movement, who indeed take BOTH patrilineal as well as matrilineal considerations. I have a question for you: You have finished University and still listen to your mum? What did you learn there? Respecting one’s elders is admirable, but as an educated woman you shouldn’t let that stand in the way of your self betterment. Involve yourself in learning and you will find your own path. What matters is what’s in your heart. PS: Maybe it’s time to contact your gram?