Ah yes, guys and porn. My future husband loves to surf porn, and when we first got together I would look at it with him although I didn’t get ‘turned on’ by it. We too have a great sex life, and he never compares me to the girls in the videos. So I don’t have a problem with it. I no longer watch it with him – but when he comes to bed after surfing for a while I know it is me that he wants, not these imaginary women, so no one is being harmed. In fact it enhances our lovemaking. I have seen research that shows that men really respond to visual stimulation – ie, magazines, videos and strip shows – but it certainly doesn’t mean that they want to sleep with those women. If you are secure in your relationship with your partner, I would let it go – otherwise he may feel obligated to hide it, which would create a bigger rift in your relationship than an understanding that he can look but not touch (and that you don’t even want to look). Believe me, he will love you all the more for it!