How would dating outside your ethnic group confuse your daughter? Would she get confused by the hostility that some narrow-minded people would direct towards you all as you walked down the street holding hands? You explain that by telling them that some people choose to live in ignorance. Would she be confused that you and your lover’s skin tones don’t exactly match? You explain that by simply stating that everyone don’t exactly look alike. Your daughter would hopefully learn that her mother has feelings for another person despite their differences. Love is colorblind. The fact that your lover would be of another ethnic group is irrelevent. What she would most of all learn is that there are many great people in the world independent of his/her ethnicity and how it would be a shame to rule out an individual b/c of a different skin tone.