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I Can’t Believe You Asked That!

I Can’t Believe You Asked That! (Perigee) by Dare To Aks founder Phillip J. Milano offers compelling, real dialogue – from both everyday people (our users) and celebrities and experts – on even the most sensitive topics:

  • What do blind people “see” in their dreams?
  • Why do white people smell like wet dogs when they come out of the rain?
  • Why do so many gay men love The Wizard of Oz?
  • Do Catholics consider oral sex a sin?

The book has attracted intense scrutiny and media reaction. Politically correct or not, these questions reflect natural, honest, human curiosity about the lives and experiences of other people. Nationally recognized diversity advocate Phillip J. Milano uses these and a host of other questions from the hugely popular Dare To Aks website to present an unflinching, occasionally bizarre and sometimes hilarious look at the taboo topics so many people wonder about – but usually don’t dare ask.

Milano is the founder of Dare To Aks, former chairman of the Recruitment and Youth Development Committee of The Newspaper Association of America’s Diversity Board, and a featured speaker nationwide at universities, businesses, conferences and seminars. He is a 25-year newspaper veteran and wrote the award-winning nationally syndicated Dare To Ask column for The Florida Times-Union.

Devour I Can’t Believe You Asked That! yourself, buy it for a family member or friend, or use it in your classroom or diversity seminar. It’s sure to create a buzz – as well as a lasting conversation.


Why Do White People Smell Like Wet Dogs When They Come Out of the Rain?

From the foreword to Why Do White People Smell Like Wet Dogs When They Come Out of the Rain? (And Other Questions Worth a Smack on the Head from Mom) by Pulitzer Prize-winning Miami Herald columnist Leonard Pitts:

If you have yet to leaf through this book, here’s a sampling of the kinds of inquiries you’ll find:

“Is it true that black people have an extra muscle in their calves?”

“Why does it seem that most male hairdressers, florists, entertainers, decorators and clothing designers are gay?”

“Is there a way to tell the difference in Asian nationalities? Is is true that the direction the eyes slant is an indicator?”

“Why do Jewish people eat Matzoh?”

“Why is it that Caucasians seem to spend so much time on lawn care?”

If the questions are profound in their plainness, that’s all right. If they are discomfiting and difficult, put up with it. It’s better to have people asking questions than making up answers. Therein lies the birthplace of ignorance and stereotype. 

You’ve already come this far. Turn the page. Cross the line. Read on.”